Love

Ok, this isn't really a problem thread, but it might be useful for other people to read through.

Talk about love, and how you can get over it.

Love has put me through a lot of pain in my life. People say it feels like being ripped apart from the inside. I thought they were joking...but it really does feel like that. It's a physical pain. And it's awful.

When I was in love, I tried so hard to forget about it and move on. I tried so many different things, none of which worked. In the end, I just accepted that I was in pain, and might be for the rest of my life, and focussed on the good things in my life. I found music very helpful at this time. It gave me strength and determination to carry on with my life, and have as much fun as possible. This is the time when I really found myself. I found metal music too. And that's a big part of me now. It stopped me feeling so alone, and showed me that everyone experiences this pain in their life.

Even now, I sometimes remember the feeling of pain, and a shadow of it returns for a moment. My theory is, once you have experienced it, it becomes a part of you. It's who you are, even if you don't feel the love anymore. I know I don't., yet the pain is still there, nowhere near as strong as it once was, but it's there, buried deep. I will never forget.

I agree with you there, there is pain when you have to move on and it does stay with you, we just have to find the strength to carry on like you have.

im still finding myself and im still struggling with the pain inside me but because i have my friends, im not giving up, im going to continue and i will beat the pain, it will not dominate my life and i will find myself, im sure of it, all i have to remember is that there are people out there who are doing the same thing and that we are all fighting for something.

Glad you have found yourself Outsider, lets just hope that others can find temselves like you have and have a great life despite the pain.

I have pain but don't like to talk about it really. I guess thats why I act goofy so much. To be honest I think it's best to take the experience and then just move on.

I don't think that love has got me as bad as you guys.

Black Mamba wrote:I have pain but don't like to talk about it really. I guess thats why I act goofy so much. To be honest I think it's best to take the experience and then just move on.

I don't think that love has got me as bad as you guys.

Yeah, most people don't like to talk about their emotions. That's why I set up this thread, so we can talk about it without being embarrassed and awkward. It also gives a slight anonymity, as newcomers won't know who we are.

I think that talking to someone else really helps get your emotions in order. Like if I'm upset about something, I'll rant about it to one of you guys, and I'll feel much better.

i have this realy annoying tendancy to bottle my feelings up, i know its not good to do it but i dont really like to talk to someone about my emotions, i even sometimes feel like i cant talk to my closest friends about them but im glad when i can and i do feel better afterwards, even if it takes time, it helps in the long run.

Argetlam wrote:i have this realy annoying tendancy to bottle my feelings up, i know its not good to do it but i dont really like to talk to someone about my emotions, i even sometimes feel like i cant talk to my closest friends about them but im glad when i can and i do feel better afterwards, even if it takes time, it helps in the long run.

Well now you have a whole forum to do this.

Yeah but then it's really out in the open on the internet

Black Mamba wrote:Yeah but then it's really out in the open on the internet

True, but I find it helpful. anyway, we're getting off topic.

im also currently struggling to hide my love for a certain person and its affecting how i act around people, i can be moody, silent or just gazing into space, its because im trying my best to control myself but its just not working im sure i will manage it but it will take time, but im failing to see why i should continue with love because it only brings pain and misery, but i cannot help how i feel.

so i guess i have a conflict of emotions raging inside me

So... does anybody have any positive experiences about love to talk about?

apart from you and your computer wife, i dont know

It's not all paradise, you know, especially with the interference of Wikipedia!

lol wikipedia is just a website, im not taking the piss or anything, but is there a human whom you love/loved at any point or at the present point and is there anything good/bad coming out of it, which is basically the point of this thread, so you can talk about your love ups and downs and to get those pent up emotions out so you can feel free again from emotional baggage.

matthewl wrote:So... does anybody have any positive experiences about love to talk about?

Although love gave me loadsa pain..it also gave me such a good feeling at the beginning (when i actually thought i had a chance). It was like a whole new purpose.

And even now, I think i gained more of an identity from it and i believe it has made me stronger, coz at the moment I feel i could take on anything (even though i probably cant). It also helped me find myself, and helped me learn to focus on the good things in my life, like music, which is a major part of my life now. Because of this, normal events dont get me down so much.

i wish things were the same for me right now, i know i'm sounding a bit self centered but i want to get all of it off my chest, the usual methods of making me get over heart ache, like music and reading and stuff like that, it just isn't helping me at all, there has to be some way for me to get over it and get back to normal, but right now i feel like im been trapped in a box and shaken up all the time, it hurts and there doesn't seem to be any escape at all right now, its almost as if my emotions are digging me into a grave before it all pulls the trigger and kills me completely.

please, some one help me escape from this hell hole I've fallen into.

Argetlam wrote:i wish things were the same for me right now, i know i'm sounding a bit self centered but i want to get all of it off my chest, the usual methods of making me get over heart ache, like music and reading and stuff like that, it just isn't helping me at all, there has to be some way for me to get over it and get back to normal, but right now i feel like im been trapped in a box and shaken up all the time, it hurts and there doesn't seem to be any escape at all right now, its almost as if my emotions are digging me into a grave before it all pulls the trigger and kills me completely.

please, some one help me escape from this hell hole I've fallen into.

I think the only person who can help you is yourself. But unfortunately, it sounds like everyone has their own effective method of recovering. and you haven't found yours yet. Just hang in there, and maybe you will. try and focus on the good things in your life.

i know and I'm trying different things when i'm alone, but they all fail and i seem to be sinking in deeper into an abyss, me trying to look at the good things in my life won't be any good lol because most of my life is a blur, i don't remember many things from my past and it seems that the only things i can remember are painful, the only good times i can remember are brief times like when i met the person who is now my closest friend in the world, but thats all, the rest is just bad stuff, i can't even remember the first time i felt great, its just a blur in my increasingly bad memory.

But i won't give up, people have suffered the same as me and they have suffered worse than me and gotten through it, so there is hope for me yet.

Just remember my little....tactic.... See life as a battle... A battle in which you'll never surrender....

sounds like a plan, i'll give it a go and see how i do

Don't worry. you'll get over it eventually. somehow.

im not trying to get over it comletely, i just want to be able to love the person AND not be depressed but so far no luck, im gonna keep at it though

Argetlam wrote:im not trying to get over it comletely, i just want to be able to love the person AND not be depressed but so far no luck, im gonna keep at it though

I'm not sure that's possible... but I hope ya succeed.

im sure i'll manage, i have my friends there for me which is great

i hope other people in the same situation as i am in right now will manage and i hope they also have a great group of friends that are always there to help them out

Yeah well thats the whole thing of life I guess......
Dancing monkey will keep my spirits up

Black Mamba wrote:Yeah well thats the whole thing of life I guess......
Dancing monkey will keep my spirits up

good on ya!